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Saturday, 13 September 2014

Are you ready for the afterlife?

From the Buddhist point of view, death is a natural part of life which we will all surely have to face sooner or later, whether we like it or not.

The First Noble Truth of the Buddha's teaching is that all beings must experience the suffering of birth, old age, sickness and death. It is unavoidable regardless of whether royalty or commoner, rich or poor, strong or weak, death is a man's final destination.
The First Noble Truth- Buddha as a wandering monk, had learnt that all people have one thing in common.

The Lord of Death (Yama) holds the wheel of life, the unenlightened cycle of birth and death (samsara).
There is a process that happens after death which all living beings are caught in an endless cycle of rebirth. Until we stop that continuation, there's continual samsara, continual  repetitive cycle until you make it through your life cycles to Nirvana.

 Those from Bad karma binds a person's soul (atman) to the cycle of rebirth (samsara) and leads to misfortune in this life and poor conditions in the next life.

In Western culture,  if someone's time is up then it's up and the grim reaper will come after them.  No matter where you run, no matter where you hide - you can't cheat death. Just like the horror movie,  Final Destination..No one can outrun death. It will catch up to all of us eventually.
The concept of an angel of Death has existed in many societies, like this Korean Grim reapers taking souls to the afterlife.

Why I bring up the sobering subject of death is because as the older you get, the more fragile you understand life to be. A few months before I went to visit a friend at the hospital who underwent heart bypass surgery and his appearance is quite normal. Not all stories have a happy ending though. A few months later, I received the unfortunate news that my buddy has tragically passed away.

 Is Our Lifespan Determined by God?

You ever heard someone refer to ‘an untimely death’ – we say in the case of someone who has died in their younger years. The deceased has died ahead of their predetermined time – died early.  Most people would  think as it is normal when you've grown old and die but not died young.

My friend died an “untimely” death. In his mere 30's, there are so much of things or goals he may want to achieve, dreams he want to fulfill and life experiences. Like watching his 3 years old daughter grow up or to made the long-awaited trip to Taiwan. All I could think of is that, in the words of  a song by Michael Jackson, "Gone Too Soon".

God is sovereign over our lives. It is God who ordains our lives, the time we are born, and the time we die. (Eccles 3). In fact our appointment with death has already been made, and we should abide by his appointment.

Death is a reality that we can't avoid, and without early-warning signal,  death can strike anytime. Start by doing what's necessary and before it's too late.

Here are some popular steps that should be on everyone’s list.

1. Find something to enjoy about every day and as if it was your last, some day you'll most certainly glad you did. You may have something troubling you but this doesn't stop you from a walk in the sunshine, hugging your spouse or child, or having a good laugh with a friend.

 Chinese Proverbs - Even if the sky falls on you, there is a hole you can escape from.

Charlie Chaplin wrote one of the most meaningful song ever written to
  all those feeling depressed

2. Make a bucket list or a wish list of to-dos before you die.  Most people have compiled a list of things they want to do or places they want to see before your demise. My friend can make up only travel wish list as her bucket list next destinations.

The Bucket List
I had few things in my mind to add to my bucket list, one of them was to try to learn to play drums. I will never see myself attempting something wild like bungee jumping or jumping out of a plane.
3. Sign documents to protect you and your family. Everybody needs a will , you should start planning  earlier than you might think.
If you die without a will or living trust, state law will determine how most of your belongings are distributed, and the the proceeds may not go where intended.
 A Will provides peace of mind – you know that your estate will pass to the people to help ensure that your assets are distributed according to your wishes.
4.  By planning ahead, you can protect your loved ones from unnecessary suffering upon your passing. Do the right thing through nominating and updating your nomination, your family members can be secure of receiving your EPF savings without any  hassle in the event of your death.
Keep a certified copy of your beneficiary nomination form, just incase they screw up

5. Life is so short and  passes away like a flash of light ,  so give your loved ones a hug and take every opportunity to tell friends and family how much you love them as we never know.
 As the child grows and develops, the mothers had a very difficult time bonding with their babies. Provided a close mother-son bond, starting from the earliest days and continuing into a man's adult years.
 Malaysia, Brunei and the Philippines has a unique way of respecting their elders through performing salim, for example when shaking the hand of older persons, such as parents, grandparents and teachers. The youngsters are expected "kissing"  the right hand of an older person when you greet elders.
Children are taught to respect their elders.  You usually see the school children kissing the hand of their parents hands and most noticing when their parents drop them off at school. Good customary practices can help to build strong bonds of love and respect alive.

Some people don’t say 'I love you' to their parents at all. Others don’t say it often enough.  I do believe that spending time with your parents is important to keep your relationship with each other strong.  Some children has failed to establish  a close bond with its parents and would feel like a total stranger.

6. Planning your funeral- Well, maybe it's too early for some but you might as well plan ahead because you never know when your time is up . It's never too early to start planning. By expressing your own wishes, you may be able to save your survivors of the guesswork entails as they try to figure out what type of arrangement suits you well.

You do not wish to delve into the details but you may lets others know your preferences.

- Grave marker by having unique epitaphs on you head stone really makes them more interesting.
 My favorite epitaphs include, "I told you I was sick"
- Arrange for religious services- It caught us all by surprise when my friend  memorial service was held in Christian funeral practices. This is his secret.

- Consider cremation? Why not go green?  It requires no casket, no embalming, and no land use. Ashes take a small amount of space to keep. My friend says he will opt for a cremation when his time comes. It will further saves time if his ash urn kept at home,  this saves travel time when All Souls' Day is honored and observed. Some people choose to keep ashes at home to feel closer to the deceased. Would you keep the ashes of someone incinerated in an urns inside the house, but it is a bit creepy, isn't it?

- Make a list of everything you wish to included in your services.
a- Write your own obituary. You can give it your own personal touch and you can usually avoid         the boring stuff.
b- Personal letters to your family and friends, you can ask someone to deliver after your demise. Nowadays you can compose a message now, but schedule it to be sent later your Outlook Emails.
c- Select your favourite music or songs for your funeral service. One of the songs that I have on my mind is "Leaving On A Jet Plane" but don't know when I'll be back again".
d- Choose your favourite photograph you like to have on headstone photo. I might as well  to have my portrait photo taken for just this purpose every few years. You'd like to present your best capture moment of photo portrait don't you?
e- Audio or video recordings and video messages to be released and played after/during your   funeral. Perhaps you can end your speech using famous last words, you can use Lord Nelson last words, "Thank God I have done my duty". 
f- As technology advances and becomes an ever-present part of our lives,it is becoming more and    more apparent that one day the funeral home service would provide the the idea of holography.   Hologram technology offers a 3D likeness that can move and speak as if the person were really present. The deceased individuals will record a personalized holograph message that can be delivered to their families after they pass away.
Norman Osborn hologram deliver a speech after his death

While some may choose to live on through unending challenges struggle to survive but some people may feel intensely sad or hopelessness, as if there is no other way out and wants to end his or her life.

On Aug 11, 2014, the world was shocked to learn of the comedian Robin Williams suicide. His death makes no sense. The first things that goes through my mind is how could this happen to him? He has everything a man could want—fame, fortune, and adoring fans.

We will always remember him for his warmth, his humor, smile, laugh and always look very cheerful on the outside but unknown to us inside of him, he  lived a sad life.

Mork Signed Off For The Last Time. RIP, Robin Williams. Nano Nano.

Robin Williams was suffering from the early stages of Parkinson's disease at the time of his death, his wife says. Just a lesson in life, no matter how much money and fame he had it all but if health is at stake doesn't bring a happy life. Oh well, you can't win 'em all.

Thus bringing the facts that a person may feel happy on the surface but on the inside suffer from mental illness. An important reminder that we must give support to those who suffer from depression and need to treat as serious as other diseases.

When patients are asked to hear the truth when 'breaking bad news', most people  typically go through the Kubler-Ross  model, or the five stages of grief.

Denial ( This isn't happening..this isn't real, this is not suppose to happen)
Anger ( Why is this happening to me? Why me?)
Bargaining ( I'll be good... I promise, I will be a better man)
Depression (I honestly don't care whether or not i die)
Acceptance (Come what may, I'm ready for it)

We are in control of our destiny but have little control over our fate.  Our fate is sealed. The best way is not to fight fate but  accepting your fate, let it workout itself and take as it comes. Just like the song says "Whatever will be will be. The future's not ours to see. Que Sera Sera What will be will be."

Alternatively, you can drown in your own sorrow by getting drunk but it won't change a thing. All you get is splitting headaches after morning.

We can't help it but to think he should be more thankful for the gift of GOD bestowed upon him. He was in the early stages of Parkinson's at the older ages.  It's normal to feel sad and to have anxiety because of this but he can't stomach the thought of it.

Parkinson's  disease is not fatal and do not shortened life expectancy. However, there is no cure and we do not know of any way of slowing its  progression. Some of the better know Parkinson's victims include Michael J. Fox and Mohammed Ali.  Fox was only 30 years old when he was diagnosed. While the former heavyweight boxing champion of the world, Muhammad Ali at the age of 42 was in apparent good health till he discovered having the same disease.

Muhammad Ali the best boxer of all time
 known for his witty phrases like 'Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee.'

Both  have displayed courage, Muhammad Ali is not giving up the fight and Michael J. Fox battled with the disease himself since the early 1990's. After crossing the charity marathon finish line, saying, "I'm still standing." He was obviously referring to he refuse to give in to the disease and let it overtake his life.

I particularly love this great  motivational quote that will give you the drive to never give up and never give in!

The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.”

~Rocky Balboa~

Rocky Balboa, the popular boxing character created by Sylvester Stallone

As long as you do not give up there's hope that someday there will be a cure,  may God let this be true.

Robin Williams once said, 'death is nature's way of saying, your table is ready.' Hey, ‘the table was prepared too early' and caught everybody by surprise.

Life is an open book chapter that will not knowing when the end will be. Just recently, one early morning when I was on my way to work, a factory bus suddenly swerve to the left. Next I heard a loud pop that sounds almost like a gunshot. One of the tires busted. Luckily the  bus driver  managed to keep the bus under control and bring it to a stop before it tipped into a drainage ditch.

I dare not say what will happen if the bus was at the back of my car at the time?  Fortunately, nothing terribly happens as I escape a possibly fatal skid situation. Thank God, I'm Safe!

 For this time being, I take a rain check on my table. Some things are in our control and others not. Next time, I may not be so lucky, I try to live my life without that when the time does come I would not say "Hey, wait a minute, I'm not ready yet, there are many things I would still love to".

Remember…life is just a memory. Live happy and healthy lives  before you finally kick the bucket!

Monday, 18 August 2014

Water Heater Danger

Gone are the days when we had to boil the kettle just to have a bath.Once the water is boiling, we gently pour a kettle full of hot water and mix with the cold in a bucket.It's widely considered as a mark of luxury in the past to enjoy a warm bath.

Nostalgia, bathtime not quite the same experience as today

Nowadays in a modern or contemporary home, all you have to do is when you turn water heater on and you will have almost instant hot water coming out of your shower head.

Electricity vastly improves your quality of life. Most of the time, water heaters do what you expect them to do, that is to heat your water but you have completely ignore the hidden dangers you need to look out for. One of the dangers with a water heater is when you did not installed properly.

Defective water heaters could be so lethal to bathers. While such incidents are rare, in the wake of a recent tragedy had raised safety concern on domestic water heaters.  The mishap involving a pharmacist due to be married next year was electrocuted while using the water heater at her Segamat home.

Just about a year ago, on Sep 20, 2013  a Japanese couple was electrocuted by a faulty water heater in their apartment in Mont Kiara, Kuala Lumpur. As reported from local paper..

City CID chief Senior Asst Comm Datuk Ku Chin Wah said the housekeeper found the bodies of the married couple, aged 38, at around 10am on the 13th floor apartment unit.

"We believe the husband was electrocuted while taking a shower.

"His wife heard the noise in the bathroom and came to his aid but was also electrocuted," he said.

The body of the man was in the nude while the woman was fully clothed.

It is believed the water heater unit short-circuited leading to the electrocution.

Tankless water heater, also known as instantaneous water heaters, are by far the most common type used in Malaysia.Unlike conventional water heaters, tankless water heater do not heat and store hot water, you do not need to prepare and wait for the tank to heat up. The compact instantaneous systems heat the water as it is used, they cannot run out of hot water.

One thing to keep in mind when selecting a Tankless Water Heater for a two story house is you need to choose one which fitted with booster pump as you may not have enough pressure flowing from a water tank storage. Built-in booster pump, let you have an enjoyable, powerful and uninterrupted water flow.

Those water heater without a booster pump is good only for water heater's inlet pipe directly connected to the mains drinking water supply (water high pressure) and not from water storage tank.

Most instance hot water for Malaysian market come with built-in GFCI or ELCB breaker.The water heater unit when install must be connected only to a properly grounded electrical supply by a properly trained qualified service personnel.

Water and Electricity don't mix. Water carries electricity efficiently. A fatal attraction when the two elements are mixed together, it can be deadly - you could easily be electrocuted.
That's why when it is going to be rain, the life guard would ask everyone to get of the water. If your in a pool of water and the lightning struck the water you will be electrocuted.

Hence the bathroom is possibly the most dangerous room in the house.

Wet skin significantly lower our human body resistance of electric shocks. The low resistance of wet skin allowing further increases current flow to pass into the body easily which increases shock severity.

In the past people take extra precautions by installing an external Earth Leakage Circuit Breaker (ELCB) or RCCB outside the bathroom but these days, many instant water heater comes with the latest technology built-in ELCB and ELSD(ground fault circuit interrupter) models.


There are several steps that can be taken to protect yourself and your loved ones over the usage of electric water heaters.

As we all know, 50 V AC or 120 V DC can deliver lethal electrocution to people.

Therefore, it is advisable to periodically inspection test to verify the functioning of the ELCB
self test on electric water heater.

1st:  Please ensure you have heater on/off switch outside the bathroom. The switch for the heater/aircon, the amperage is 20A. A 13A plug is not good enough. The wiring also has to be rated to handle 15A, or the cables will also burn/melt.

2nd:  The wiring also has to be rated to handle 15A, or the cables will also burn/melt.

3rd:  Before buying any instant water heater make sure your water heater is equipped with an inbuilt GFCI or ELCB breaker. ELCB is basically a life saving device will trip instantaneous when in the event of a short circuit.

4rd: Test the functions of ELCB beaker monthly at least four times a year to prevent electrocution.

Here’s how you should test the GFCI/ELCB breaker:

• The first thing to do is to switch on electricity at the main switch.

Usually, there will be a TEST button on the main body of water heater.All the ELCB's are provided with test buttons.

After starting the water heater (avoid getting contact from the water), press a button marked ‘Test’ button to check operation of the tripping device.

If the ELCB is operating correctly, the water heater should stop stopped working immediately. If not, please stop promptly, switch off the electric water heater and arrange an experienced technician to inspect it. Contact the vendor about a return due to failure of safety if doubtful. (provided it's still is covered under the warranty or else please get a new one)

If someone is still apprehensive after the water heater passes ELCB test, he can always install another external RCCB at the incoming mains for water heater to provide additional safety measures.  Don't attempt to repair ELCB, employ a registered electrical contractor to check.

Ugly looking but reliable safety devices installed in older homes

The Electricity Regulation 1994, it is mandatory for all consumers to install an external residual-current circuit breaker (RCCB) with a 10mA (milliampere) current leakage sensitivity for water heaters but many consumers fail to adhere to the regulation.

Most new water heaters have built-in ELCB that would cut off the power supply to the heater in the event of current leakage but still some people are not convince enough with the inbuilt ELCB water heater.

Many consumers assumed that the built-in 15mA circuit breaker was sufficient, when in fact it would not provide full protection against leakages.

The external RCCB, serves as an added protection.

The 10mA is the most sensitive RCCB that could detect even 0.01Amp of current, meaning it is able to detect current leakage speedily.

General knowledge of routine maintenance to enjoy an uninterrupted shower.

1. Just like your car, your instant water heater also needs regular tune-ups. Over time, mineral deposits can build up in your shower head. This can cause your shower head nozzles clogged and doesn't seem to be as powerful as it once. You can clean the thing by take it apart, soak it, scrub with a used toothbrush and screw the showerhead back on.

2. If low water pressure is affecting your shower head, you should look out for another obstruction in the shower hose. Most tankless water heaters have an inlet water filter. Keep cleaning inlet filter often by disconnect cold water valve then remove and clean filter. With a clean shower head filter can prevent low water volume.

Use a pair of needle-nose pliers to gently remove the screens for cleaning

3. Low or not constant water pressure can cause problem of hot and cold water out simultaneously, or unit does not work. This case water pressure should be adjusted.

4. For safety, please check and adjust water temperature before using to avoid scalding.

I didn't see it coming! Didn't see it coming!

Yes, you can be electrocuted in the shower or while on the phone if a lightning bolt strikes your house. The chances of it happening are awfully slim, but i guess - it's better to be safe than sorry. Water does does allow electricity to flow, especially a large current like lightning.

Your pipes in your house are grounded, and the lightning is looking for the fastest way to ground, to discharge. So, if it hit your house, it can go through the pipes and you could be part of the circuit for the electricity to travel.The basis of the claim is that a bolt of lightning that hits a house or building can travel through any metal wires or bars in concrete walls or flooring and shock anyone who comes into contact with a faucet or appliance.

 "Sorry, you have the wrong number," and  "zzzzttt-zzzzzzzt"

The odds of that happen  is very slim/are slim. I do take showers while ts thunderstorming, but only if I really have to.

One last thing to keep in mind... Just when you think you have all the safety precautions you should take.

Will touching a light switch with wet hands electrocute you?
 Silly use electrical switches when you have wet hands?

You guessed right, you'll know what's going to happen next

To guard against accidental shock, get one of this plastic shock protector

So don't let your guard down by not paying attention to safety even for a moment.... Stay alert and you won't get hurt. One of the precautions might use it to save your life someday. 

Tuesday, 22 July 2014

Lipoma (Skin Lumps)

In general, it is not absolutely necessary to remove a lipoma, provided that your doctor is pretty sure this is what it is. Of course, one cannot be absolutely certain with a naked eye until the lesion is removed and submitted for further testing.

What Is a Fat Deposit?

A lipoma or fat deposit is a slow-developing growth of fat this is found just under the skin, but they can develop anywhere in the body.  They typically appear on the neck, shoulders, back, abdomen, arms, and thighs.  It can occur at any age, but children rarely develop them. It is most common in people first appear between 40 and 60.

The typical lipoma is a small, soft, rubbery lump located just beneath the skin

No one knows why these lumps form but these tumours can occur as part of the inherited disease. My sister had her lipoma removed on her forehead many years ago and now its my turn, I had lipoma surgery on the palm of my hand.

I has had lipoma for about 3 years. After it got about 4.2(Ht) x 2.4(W) x 1.5(AP)cm- as recent report has shown, I had to have surgically removed.

A few days before surgery, I had initial consultation was with the primary care physician, and after a x-ray scan, I was then referred to an orthopaedic surgeon who diagnosed me.
X-ray: Looks like a ball-sized swollen lymph node.
Diagnosing a Lipoma
A lipoma may be diagnosed easily with a simple physical exam. This type of growth feels typically feel soft and can be felt to move slightly under your skin when you press on them. It isn’t painful since it is made up of fatty tissues.

A lipoma can’t be reduced size with self-care therapy. Ice and heat packs may work for certain types of skin lumps, but they are powerless against lipomas because they are fat-based. If you have any concerns about getting rid of a lipoma, see your doctor for surgery treatment.

A lipoma that is best left alone if doesn’t cause any problems. Your dermatologist or orthopaedic surgeon will make the best treatment recommendation based on a number of factors including: the size of lipoma and whether the lipoma is painful.

Images may be taken of your bodily structures to provide a much details picture. This can be done with an MRI, this scan is necessary to provide detail of the images or to give a three-dimensional picture of a structure within the body.
If the lipoma is large, has unusual features or appears to be deeper than the fatty tissue.

MRI provide clear images of body parts that can't be seen as well with an X-ray by using strong magnet.

There's a remote chance that a lump resembling a lipoma may actually be a form of cancer called liposarcoma.
The  the difference between a lipomas and liposarcomas is it grow rapidly, don't move under the skin and are usually painful. After surgery a tissue sample removal (biopsy) are send to modern pathology lab examination for confirmation.
 Phew! What a relief! Pathology result confirms the suspicion that the mass is a fatty one.

On the day of surgery, I have checked in at the registration desk, after paid an initial down payment of Rm 1k for minor surgery, I waited in the reception area.

As I stare at the television screens, a news flash caught me by surprise. Oh no! I'm going to the surgery  in another one hour's time and this breaking news makes my heart beat even faster.

Our thoughts n prayers for the families and friends of all on #MH17 and the
#MH 370 crash. It is 133 days from the start date to the end date.  I only hope that justice will be served.

I have to pause, take a deep breath..... Have mercy upon us, O LORD, have mercy upon us. This can't be true. I have a look at the screen again as I can't believe this is happening again. It's real, we are going to relives another tragic MAS plane crash nightmare. I'm lost for words.

 As I SMS to my friends, many doubt the text messages as it's still not in the local news since ABC and CNN are the first cable news networks to delivers the latest breaking news.

A nurse attended to me shortly. She kindly informed me that I needed to ride in the wheelchair, even I am perfectly able of walking yourself. I was shown to my hospital room as I was going to stay for a night, I opt for a private room.  I wanted the room to myself, since this is just a one day stay.

I was reminded by the nurse not to leave your purse or personal valuable items unattended in the room.The hospital is not responsible for lost or stolen. In-room food service, comprising 4 meals daily so no need fear of hunger unless you're the type of late night snack.

Before you have your operation, you probably received the traditional pre-op order from the doctor: Don't eat or drink anything after midnight prior to the day of surgery. I had to get up early to eat very light meals, like toast and tea with milk, six hours before surgery.

It's a precautionary measure to prevent stomach contents enter the lungs, potentially blocking airflow and putting patients at risk for serious infections like pneumonia.

 When it came time for the surgery, It's Do or Die Time For Me!  The surgery has been delayed long enough. At this time, I will change into a patient gown for surgery. Before embarking I was reminded to make sure I do not wear underwear. She had a big grin on her face, "Wear Nothing Underneath".

People cannot wear any clothes expect for the hospital gown when having surgery. 

There is a sheer anxiety in surgical patient like me, it peaks when nurse crews move the trolleys along the corridors  before transferring patients from one trolley to another and lastly onto an operating table. Bring in more moments of high anxiety or panic to a patient. I imagine myself in situations like a cattle in a transport vehicle on the way to slaughter house! On the way to operating room, medical specialists use mild sedative (calming drugs) to calm and relax their patients.

A gas mask seal around my nose and mouth and doctor will ask me to count down from 10 (you never make it to two).  When you inhale the anaesthetic gas you feel really sleepy. You'll be put to sleep in no time.
After my operation the anaesthetic doctor will tell me where I am and that my surgery is over. I was shown the lipoma removed from my palm and keep in a small bottle. It will be sent to pathology laboratory elsewhere.

It takes a while for the brain to actually wake up, even after you are conscious. Most people don't remember much after the inhaled of anaesthetic gases. They will experience gas or wind pain following surgery.

Last thing I remember is the damn cold temperatures in operating room. ( kept cool to slow the rate of bacteria growth). A nurse double confirm as a witness by asking is this my name and my signature on my  written surgical consent.

You will have a health check before your operation. Nurses will monitor your blood pressure, temperature, and pulse, and give you medicine.When you return to your hospital room after surgery, you will be closely, again blood pressure, pulse, temperature will be recorded readings on clip board that hung off the bed for the doctor to read the patients chart in full.

After surgery, a small plastic tube is inserted into a vein on my arm using a needle. It was left there so that fluids and medicines can be put directly into the blood through the vein.

My left hand had this dressing on my hand after surgery, I feel like a Mummy on the loose

I was asked to drink sips of clear fluids water to determine whether I will vomit. When the nurse learn I do not throw up, lunch is serve as soon as I have no bad side affects. I was hungry as it's been about 12 hours since I was food deprived prior to surgery.

 The next morning I get a missed call from a friend. I got a strong gut feeling this is not going to be a good news. Shocking bad news, another friend confirmed my suspicions, Lam Chee Ming, my friend and former  colleague, passed away.

 You'll never be forgotten! R.I.P. buddy. Its a shame that our Kenyir Lake fishing trip revisit will never be fulfilled

He's an avid fan of Candy Crush and he constantly have been getting me to "give a life". Sorry pal I still haven't learn how to play the game but I can hear still feel the eerie echoes of your request playing faintly somewhere in the back of my mind.

Life Is So Short And Precious, you'll never know your number is up next. You can live in regret if you don't shower your feelings and love to those close to you  because it may happen that you never see tomorrow.

What You Should Do After Your Operation:

After your surgery, one of those most crucial things you can do is ward off an infection in your incision. An infection can reduce the pace of healing process, and can in some cases, may have unexpectedly serious complications.

Hallelujah! I do not have ugly surgical stitches and staples as the doctor practises of closing surgical incisions using modern marvel welds by cold plasma. I wouldn't want my incision looks like a centipede on my hand.
Thank you for being such a good and caring doctor.

My Aunt is a Matron for Surgery, she called my mother to remind me:

1. Don’t take soaking baths. Your doctor has stitched your incision to speed healing. You can take a shower instead of a bath if you have stitches or skin tape on your incision. The skin of your incision require time to rebuild its waterproof seal. Generally if you have a small cuts that are not gaping and may not require actual stitches,for 24 to 48 hours, do not allow it to get wet in the bath or shower. It has all the essential fats that are necessary for skin to regrow and self heal itself.

On the other hand for those who undergo surgery, wound can break down your healing incision and let bacteria in. So stop yourself from Indulging shower and bath foam for the next two weeks after your operation.

2. You may be tempted to quit taking medicine of post operation if they upset your stomach, but finishing the entire prescription is essential to staying infection free. If you stop taking your antibiotic too soon, you may be at risk for developing some bacteria survive and re-infect.

Again she emphasised that I must finished the antibiotic treatment. Even  this information will be printed on the label of the pack to remind you to complete the full course, even if you feel your infection has cleared up.

What You Should not Eat to Avoid Infection After Surgery?
Not conducive to wound healing food such as deer meat, bean curd, onions, peppers, leeks, and because they can easily cause infection is not conducive to wound healing.

The elders would advised me to refrain from eating:

Eggs-  A bacterium, Salmonella enteritidis, can be inside perfectly normal-appearing eggs, infection include painful abdominal cramps, diarrhoea, and often fever.

Ducks and chicken - because the fact still remains that it  is one of the worst offenders when it comes to food poisoning.

Sea foods and fish- It is poisonous, arsenic in fish and seafood may be high, because fish absorb arsenic from the water. Theoretically possible that chemicals, metals, marine toxins, and infectious agents have been found in seafood would risk internal infection.

Food that can cause serious allergic reaction such as peanuts, wheat, tree nuts (such as walnut, cashew, Brazil nut), shellfish(including shrimps, mussels, and crab), fish, milk, eggs and preservatives.

Black soya sauce-The idea is that the dark pigmentation will somehow seep into one's skin and will result in dark spots or scars.

What to Eat After Surgery?
If you have had surgery, the food you eat can make a great impact on your recovery and on how quickly your wound heals. Eating the right foods can provide the necessary building blocks your skin needs to heal quickly.

Vitamin A can promote wound healing. It is mainly found in fish oil, carrots, tomatoes and other foods.

Vitamin C also can promote wound healing. Exist in a variety of vegetables, fruit, jujube(better known as red dates), chili is a treasure house of vitamin C but don't overdo it.

The elders would advised : Snakehead fish, also known as Haruan, is widely recognised in Asia Pacific countries as a healing remedy. The fish promotes dermal wound repair and reduces post-operative pain and discomfort.

 In China, pearl powder is sprinkled into wound to heal wounds because of its antiseptic properties. It enhances tissue growth and accelerate healing with minimal scarring.

After recover fully from surgery I will start  drinking apple cider vinegar, it can bind to toxins and help to cleanse the body and kill bacteria. A healthy lymphatic system can remove toxins from the cells in the body while improving immune by take apple cider vinegar in small doses throughout the day.

Wescobee Apple Cider Vinegar & Honey I recommended! Other brand it gives sour taste and pungent smell. 
Now that the lipoma has been removed, here comes the insurance claim headache. I was warned that Great Eastern Insurance has a bad reputation due to past history of claims unsettled.  Soon I will find out the whether what I read or heard is or isn't? I hope not.

I can't believe a company did not want to emphasize on customer service which in this case is the Claim department? If a  disgruntled customer did not feel satisfaction with the service rendered, they will not only  discontinue their Insurance policies but also make sure their friends and relatives did not buy them.

If worse comes to worst, I'll will definitely switch to another company upon reaching Maturity Age.   I've been thinking to get my medical card, is it worth it?

Hey guys, I know that life sometimes really sucks with endless problems, but I have to  look on the bright side of life....I'm still alive. What more can I ask? A lottery strike perhaps?

O my God, because You are so good, I am very sorry that I have sinned against You. For being greedy, forgive me Lord.

Money is one of the most important subjects of your entire life but don't you ever neglect your health while accumulate your health.  All the money in the world couldn't save you when you have a critical illness.

As the saying goes 'Health is wealth' and nothing rings more true!

Tuesday, 15 July 2014

trapped wind

More than a month ago my friend, Ah Ming has a brush with death. He may not realise it but by continue to  indulge in a habit we know is bad to his health. I had tried to get him break his bad habits of overeating  unhealthy foods and  excessive cigarette smoking. His way of coping with stressful work situation by huffing and puffing on tobacco cigarettes as many as he could. For him smoking is a great reliever.

He's chain smoking but not that greatly exaggerated

This can lead to the common cause of formation of blood clots that can block narrowed arteries and may be the reason behind his heart attacks. He has stopping smoking after his heart attack, I hope he remain smoke free after his discharge. He ought to abstain from smoking,  not for his own sake but for the sake of others, especially for his two-year-old daughter.

If the US President Barack Obama can quit smoking, why couldn't him?

 Everyone deals with stress in his or her own way. Some people work well under pressure and some people couldn't do the work properly even given a particularly small task to handle . Overeating, drinking, and smoking are common coping mechanisms, but not universal accepted.It's most important to learn new and better ways of coping with the pressure.

Like the release of pressure in a boiler, anger is a way to blow off steam but do it in a safe way. Find healthy and positive ways to let off steam like taking up a hobby, sport or by  deep relaxation while doing nothing.

He considered himself lucky as he wasn't driving at time of the incident. Shortly after his arrival he stopped his car at his factory and within 20 minutes he suffers from a heart attack and collapses on the floor. There are many people who has no idea that they have heart disease until they experience a heart attack. Why didn't he get a health screening? He said he thought he was in perfect health till it happens to him.  Even though you don't show any symptoms, you still have a check-up. "Screening" means having a test when you don't show any symptoms.

Recently my mom who had never been in poor health but suffered from a mysterious sudden illness. I took her to a nearby GP residential clinic for treatment. A few days I saw no improvement, I took her to the hospital for medical check up but again with no improvement. Medical report do not result in life threatening but she still is in some discomfort.
The upper abdomen bloating may feel hard or tight to the touch. Some condition can cause
discomfort and pain, shortness of breath or difficulty breathing. 

Next I was recommended that I take her to see one of the traditional Chinese medicine practitioner. Tried Again, Not a Great Improvement.

Well I'm very confused now. ..... Which is likely to be causing me highly anxious and stressful on finding the perfect solution to cure.   I've been looking around searching the Internet with Google search engine to get the answers I am looking for and what is the best way to approach the treatment of her illness.

 I even took her to my Shaman friend to help me finding an answer. She told her there is no fear of it might be the sickness had been caused by an evil spirit. Okay it safe to say her illness is being caused by a physical illness not spiritual issues.

My friends, Ah Chong and Ah Liew show some concern for my mom's condition. I appreciate their guidance and advice, their support are very much appreciated. One of them recommended me to try a GP doctor  near her residence area.

I follow her advice and be there at the clinic which in the evening appointments start at 7.30pm. The waiting list number I got is 22, so how long it will take? At 10:10pm having waiting for wait so long, its my mom turns  to see the doctor. Most patients are willing to wait for his consultations service due to his careful approach to treating all clients/patients, regardless of their ethnicity, nationality and gender background.

After taking the second dose, the gas was significantly reduced. The medication has made my Mom feel so much better. What A Relief!  The wait was worth it.

All the previous doctors from Western medicine and traditional healing practises point us in the right direction to the cause of illness which is caused by excess wind trapped in the abdomen. At night, it is very uncomfortable to sleep that can keeping her up at night.

I guess even knowing the cause of illness is still not good enough, the doctor must be given the right medication to cure the patients. That's why mom was put on a long waiting list to meet her saviour, Doctor Chin. Patients do not mind the long wait as long as the doctor medication can work wonders.

Most Chinese like to say the term for 緣分; pinyin: yuánfèn. A Buddhist-related Chinese concept that means the predetermined principle that dictates a person's relationships and encounters, usually positive, such as the affinity among friends or lover are brought together. Chinese people believe in fate or destiny, that's basically like Westerner saying "perhaps fate has brought us together".

You can say that the doctor has yuanfen saviours . Yuanfen can be thought of as the mechanism by which the doctor is able to cure my mom as other doctors who treated her failed to work. After taking medication my mom regained her strength back. HALLELUJAH

She was also counselled not to consume the following foods that can cause bloating:

1) Greasy, fried foods like burger or Youtiao YauCharKwai / Chinese Fried Twisted Dough Stick / 油条 / 油炸鬼,  it takes the stomach much longer to break down the fats and properly digest them. This delayed emptying allows gas to build up inside your stomach causing bloating.

2) Salty foods

Salt is a big guilty party when it comes to bloating.  Many foods that do not taste salty may still be high in sodium which make you feel bloated.  Most experts recommend  we should drink at least 8 to 10 glasses per day will help us stay hydrated and healthy by flush sodium and excess fluid from our system. If you're drinking enough water, your body should give an indications of a hydrated light or pale yellow urine.

3) Spicy foods

 The use of spices as food additives has been known to stimulate the release of stomach acid, which can cause irritation. Used with care and restraint when apply the use of black pepper, nutmeg, cloves, chili powder, curry, onions, garlic, mustard, BBQ sauce, horseradish, tomato sauce and vinegar.

4) Gassy vegetables

 Certain vegetables can cause more gas than others do, and everyone varies in their ability to absorb and tolerate gas-producing foods.  Individual that sensitive to tolerate air in the stomach and intestines may want to limit the amount of gas-producing vegetables such as the following:  baked beans, broccoli, Brussels sprouts, cabbage, cauliflower, lentils, Lima beans, onions and peppers.

5) Carbonated beverages

All carbonated drinks - from sodas to fizzy mineral water - can cause bloating because the carbon dioxide trapped in the bubbles creates gas, which slows down stomach emptying. Other beverages (such as alcohol, caffeinated drinks, coffee, tea, hot chocolate).

6) Dairy products

People of Asian, African, Native American, and Hispanic backgrounds are more likely to unable to digest lactose, or milk sugar, the consumption of dairy products can make you feel bloated.

When lactose can't be digested well, it will pass to the colon where gas is produced by the bacteria trying to break it down. Other calcium rich foods alternative can replace milk are tofu, soybeans and soynuts, bok choy, broccoli, collards, Chinese cabbage, kale,orange,etc.

7) Excessive eating too much fruit

Just as some people are lactose-intolerant, others are fructose-intolerant, and their bodies cannot digest the sugar properly. Consuming high-fructose fruits can trigger annoying excessive gas causing bloating and gas pains. Fruits, such as apricots, bananas, melons, peaches, pears, prunes, and raw apples.

Too much of a good thing can make you sick,  always consume fruit in moderation.

Some  citrus fruits juices (like orange juice, pineapple juice and tomato juice) have an acid high acid pH content which can irritate your gastrointestinal tract, resulting in swelling and bloating.

They are the reasons behind my mom sickness of trapped wind, gas from the digestive tract get stuck it causes abdominal pain. All because of she has the fond of overeating apples and grapes which make her stomach GO CRAZY.

9) Starches

Most starches, including potatoes, maize, pasta, and wheat produce gas as they are broken down in the large intestine. Those sensitive to starch can substituted with rice, the only starch that does not cause gas.
Also, be cautious of refined grains like white flour and white bread that are bad. In addition of not only do they offer little or no nutritional value, they can also cause water retention, with bloating as a result.

All human beings have to pass wind, nobody is excluded; whether they're young or old, male or female.

It’s just the way body's natural way nature of how our bodies work.When we chew or eat, we also  swallowed air and the food we eat.
 Your Gastrointestinal System also contains gut flora that helps to assists with digestion and produces gas as a byproduct. Only so much of this gas can be absorbed by the body, the remain has to come out through the mouth or anus.

 What Goes in Must Come Out but swallowed air rarely is the cause of excessive flatulence.

Babies have a lot of wind and need burping after every feed. Moms need to simply pat their back gently,
burp their baby.

Mom like to joke when she farted or let go wind loudly you don't have to worry, its not foul smelling odour. How true it that?

Do you know why are stinky farts generally warmer and less noise than regular noticeable farts?When you pass wind which huge ripping farts, the general contents are mostly carbon dioxide, since the powerful ones are from some sugar (or carbohydrates) fermenting in your intestines producing a lot of carbon dioxide. The byproduct of this gas release system is a combination of gasses, including carbon dioxide, methane, and hydrogen sulfide.

 Carbon dioxide is odourless. When you are having tiny farts, mostly those are from anaerobic fermentation, which produces a lot of methane and sulfides. The methane isn't a problem in terms of smell (although you can light it), but the small amounts of hydrogen sulfide gas stink.

Fart are flammable. A fart has methane gas which will start on fire. If you want proof, light a candle, get your butt close to it, and fart.
This works best without pants but you don't have to take my word for it.

 Holding in a fart is bad for your health. Sorry, When you gotta go, you gotta go
Most popular method is drink hot ginger tea (by mixing ginger juice, hot water and raw honey) to let off the wind trapped in the intestinal tract. Mix lemon juice with warm water and a teaspoon honey also may help to get rid of wind.

This ordeal of my mother's illness has made me a different person – I'm more compassionate towards my mom. Not that I take care of her badly but God has given me a second chance to redeem myself. I must constantly remind myself to try harder to treat her even better.

I need to behave even better like not to argue with her or make her upset, even if she's wrong . I should be happy if she start to nag again constantly which is a sign of good health. Nagging I need to accept as music to my ear and not an irritation. I'll try not to get irritated if she continues be extreme (ie half a dozen or more times a day) I'll make a deal with myself, every time Mom nag, I'll show no anger.. I'm just going to cross my fingers and hope it works .

Friday, 6 June 2014


Do you believe in ghosts? No way. Yeah, that there's some supernatural beings that are floating everywhere and scaring  the wits out of everyone, I don't think so. Come on. There's not such thing as ghosts.

Well, don't speak too soon. There are many things modern science cannot explain but that doesn't mean that they did not exist.

According to the widely accepted theory, a ghost is belief to be the soul, or spirit, of a deceased person or animal that can appear, in visible form, or other manifestations, to the living.

A place where a ghost or entity has been specifically and repeatedly reported or seen is described as Haunted Places, and often seen as being inhabited by spirits of deceased who may have been former residents. It is very likely that spirits have strong emotional  attachments to an object or a place.

Chung Ling High School,  located in the capital of George Town in Penang.

During the Japanese Occupation, the teachers and students of Chung Ling High School suffered harsh treatment. The school being turned into a torture, interrogation and execution camp. Many former teachers and students of CLHS also were killed for sending monetary and other contributions to China during Japan’s all-out invasion against China in 1937.
Tales of schools being former Japanese torture camps are a particularly popular explanation for apparitions of headless corpses and sounds of marching soldiers boots on the basketball court in the dead of night.

The cinema is also one of the  favourite place where ghostly presence repeatedly spotted in a building.

Let me recount a few incidents that I can recall about the special movie patrons as told by my aunties.

1. There was a time when my aunt went to a movie theatre. Halfway of the show, she feel the urge to go to the toilet. Her friend doesn't want to follow her. After she came back, her friend asked her, don't you know what happened there?.. A week ago, a  woman went into the toilet, she saw a ghostly figure and quickly rush out but on the way out she saw another person on her way in. She was just trying to be kind and stopped her from going inside by saying, "Don't go in there, there is a horrible looking ghost!".

 She looked at her, "Is she more terrifying like me?".

  She revealed her a very “ghostly” appearance. The woman was scares her out of her wits and passed out.

Now you're telling me, why didn't you tell me that earlier? Well, all those movie audience knows about this.. except you. No wonder why so few person go in there.

2. There was a cinema in Ipoh many years ago. So the story goes..

A cinema manager was unhappy with the revenue from ticket sales collection. Why  did it included hell money? (Hell money is spirit money or ghost money). He asked the ticket cashier to explain about the ticket money shortage and even suspect her of cheating.

So in order to convince him that a ghost actually pays the movie ticket with her spirit money, she asked him to wait behind her to let him know which is the movie patron when the cinema ticket counter open.

When the 'ghost' turn up at the cinema counter in human form and about to pay to the ticket cashier,  foolishly she told her manager while she pointed at 'her', yelling... 'That's her! That's the one!.'' She should have been more discreetly inform the manager on that matter.

After her true identity being exposed to him, the next thing happen the angry lady changed to her ghostly figure. When ghosts make out it sounds like this: wooo woooo woooo wooooo wooo woooo wooo woooo.

Why do you want to push me away? All I want to do is just sit back, relax and enjoy the show.

Naturally his face turns pale, as if he has seen a ghost.  Oops! he did see a ghost. The cashier kept repeating, See, I Told You So!

The cinema manager eventually died of a heart attack immediately following an intense traumatic shock he had endured.

3. Sorry but this seat is not available. I heard before somewhere there is a cinema in the past that has a seat won't be available to customer despite all the seat sold out.  It explicitly clear that permanent assigned seating is reserved for a ghost customer. Those in the past who seat on it would be possessed by a ghost. The management has no choice but to make this seat is off limit.  Only the ghost could use.

During the CHINESE HUNGRY GHOST FESTIVAL make sure you don't sit in the front row - these seats are reserved for the "special guests" which you can't see but the guests already seated. The red seats in front are reserved for them but it is believed only those accidentally seated may get possess if the people down on their luck.Not worth a try to sit on it to prove your point it's a fake.

 VIP seating, reserved for unknown wandering ghosts (also called “good brothers”)

The 15th day of the month is Ghost Festival, sometimes called Hungry Ghost Festival. It is a time of honouring ancestors and appeasing the ’hungry’ ghosts that wander the world of the living for a month. The ‘Gates of Hell’ are opened once a year when the clock strikes 12, all hell breaks loose..

All the lost and hungry ghosts of hell are free to roam the earth where they seek food and entertainment.
To appease these lost souls and to prevent them inflicting harm on the living, people put food out for the ghosts to enjoy. Elaborate ceremonies and rituals are also performed to please the ghosts.

Did you think “load of crap” the Chinese ritualistic food offerings, burning incense, and burning joss paper
 to the wandering spirit? 

 Well, think again! You will never be understand why people still continue the ritual of zhong yuan jie and Ullambana, Yulan Jie? While ceremony performed, real life spirits caught on camera. Why don't you judge for yourselves? 

That 'spirit energy' is not visible to the naked human eye, but is visible appearing in photographs.

 Supernatural activity inside homes is said to be mainly associated with a dark and gloomy history such as murder, accidental death, or suicide , it is no wonder many believe such as the 'soul', continues to exist. Their spirits are still lingering around, unable to cross over until justice has been served. They are someone who still  stuck between our world and the Spirit World. We want to see how we can help them cross over due to has some unfinished business, so that they can join the other spirits.

In the U.S.and many countries inmates on death row,  generally the prisoner may within reason, select what the last meal will be and the authorities do their best to satisfy the request. A final or last visit from family and loved ones  is allowed on the scheduled execution day.

The tradition of customised last meals is thought to have to prevent the condemned from returning as a ghost to haunt those responsible for his or her killing. As a result of this, in accepting the last meal, the condemned was presume to forgive the executioner, the judge, and witness(es).
Better to become a full-stomach ghost than a hungry ghost,  Chinese sayings for condemned prisoners. In the past,  it's one of the well known fact the prisoners knows its execution day when they were served with the best meal they had in prison so far.  That remains unchanged till today.

As a superstitious precaution, the better the food and drink, the safer the condemned oath of truce.

No doubt, prison is considered to be one of the most haunted buildings in the world due to its history of  violent criminals, executions, and riots.
Executioners (both with beheading and hanging) were hooded when executions.

You probably think like I did why the executioner would wear a hood over his face? Perhaps no spirit would remember the executioner's face, and haunt them after death or mainly to avoid retribution but also for anonymity.

In Chinese folklore,  one legend says if a girl kills herself in a red dress then she will come back to take her revenge  on those who have done her wrong.
The lady in red is dancing with me, cheek to cheek, There's nobody here, it's just you and me, It's where I ..Woh..."What the hell?

There are many references to ghosts in Chinese culture. Even Confucius said, "Respect ghosts and gods, but keep away from them."

The ghosts take many forms, depending on how the person died, and are often harmful.  Take as an example the ghost of a person who died by hanging, known as diào sǐ guǐ; (吊死鬼) literally: "hanged ghost". They are usually depicted with long red tongues sticking out of their mouths.
Ghosts of people who died from being hanged due to various reasons (e.g. execution, suicide, accident etc.).

Shui gui (Chinese: 水鬼; pinyin: shuǐ guǐ; literally: "water ghost") are the spirits of people who drowned. They lurk in the  in the same place where they met their untimely demise. It is believed that the ghosts who die from drowning need to get a replacement or  better known as ti shen (Chinese: 替身; pinyin: tì shēn; literally: "replace the body"). The spirit will return to the world of the living in the victim's body while the victim's soul will take the former shui gui's place. The whole cycle would repeat itself.

Water Ghost will  drag unsuspecting victims underwater and drown them.

It is said that those suicidal spirit have to return and relive the events that brought them to suicide. They have to repeat the misery in their lives over and over again and continue to suffer from depression, despair, and emotional turmoil until angels and spirit guides help  tormented Spirits cross over to the other side.

 Forget about what the thoughts by suicidal saying, once you've killed yourself - well,  all of your sorrow have now will disappear. SORRY, PAL--IT DOESN'T WORK THAT WAY.

You'll be creeped out when you see this spook-tacular scene which took place in Kuala Lumpur. A video of what happened to a couple who stumble upon a ghost in a car park. The 56 second footage long video, which was uploaded on YouTube from an unknown person capturing the whole incident. Could it be the couple have actually seen the actual accident reenacted in this car park? Always be alert and avoiding distractions like texting or reading while you're walking, you never know what could happen.

Oh shit, where did this come from?

 Oh no, oh no, oh no..I just hit somebody head-on
The couple car come into contact with a silhouette of a man reading a book while walking in the middle of the road that appear to come out of nowhere.

Where's the Body ?
The couple car stopped almost instantly and the male driver came down to find out who they have knocked down but he was left feeling stunned, bewildered and confused when he found nothing but an object that look like a reading material before tossing it back on the road.

Nope, not my side. Let's get out of here! We ran into 'dirty thing', in Cantonese it means something unclean/ghost

Some interesting facts about ghosts that you should know.

We don't know much about ghosts.  Here are some facts we are sure that what we believe to be truth.

1. Spirits that haunt, want to grab your attention. Some ghosts need your help to move on.
Ghost,1990.  While she is clearly a phony as a seance medium, she never  thought she was actually hearing Sam's ghost voice. 

2. Ghosts cannot pick up things. Under duress, in an emotionally charged situation, or in a group they can move things.

Sam (Patrick Swayze) asks the Subway Ghost (Vincent Schiavelli) to teach him how to move objects by focus his sight on the object.
3. Poltergeists is derived from two German words - polter, meaning noisy and the other words geist for spirit. They are spirits, or potential non-human entities, that enjoy moving objects and playing pranks.  May even tamper with lights or accidentally (possibly intentionally) cause harm to people.

The most spectacular Poltergeist haunting in a council house at Enfield, north London between August 1977 and Sept 1978

4. Ghosts can affect the temperature of small areas, creating hot spots or cold spots. You may  get chills or feel cold in certain areas like breeze airy cold chilly wind creeps down your spine. A good indicator is when the thermostat in a room quickly drops for no reason.

Ghost hunting make it easier with this paranormal activity emf meter gadget , you may find spirits faster.

The feng shui compass , also called Luo-Pan can detect the presence of spirits when the compass malfunctions, it suddenly went haywire, needle spinning out of control.

6. Most children when they are very young can see ghosts.
"I See Dead People" 

A child see paranormal activity things many older people don't see due to their innocence, pure and uncorrupted mind. As they grow up, older people telling children they cannot see spirits, or invisible friends, the child will put up mental barriers blocking awareness of its existence.

7. Most earthbound spirits appear wearing the clothes they were wearing when they died. Spirits that can't pass are usually seen in what they were last wearing, like this soldier who still wearing the same uniform when died in combat.
A civil war ghost soldier from the north side or a soldier from the war of 1812 during the battle of new Orleans

8. Most ghosts, like vampires, are not reflected in mirrors or windows. Neither have a reflection nor cast a shadow.

vampires can't be seen in mirrors

9. Ghosts have the ability to pass through doors and pass through objects.

Locked. No problem, just simply walk through the door

10. Ghosts can attend their own funerals and many do!

Supposedly in the back seat of this car hitched a ride with close family members to drive away from her own funeral when a snap shot was taken. 

It's a myth I vow has its own truth, I did not go to my grandmother's funeral. My aunt took part in a seance with psychic medium and asked whether she know who attended her funeral? Yes, all except two person.. one of them is me. How did she know?

11. Ghosts can inflict physical harm on the living without realising they are doing so.

CCTV captures black figure (possibly a ghost or a demon) attack man, okay it's fake but a Damn Good one!

12. To recharge, spirits feed off the energy of the living. Ghosts can recharge their energy by creating chaos with the living.

Victim of a vampirism that drains not blood but living energy
13. Ghosts can be sneaky and elusive, appearing out of the corner of your eye.
Watch your back cowboy, something  sneaking up behind you

13. If you want to know your hotel room is haunted, it is said that you should enter any hotel room with your left foot first. Before entering your hotel room, first rule is: knock the door before you enter. Probably even before you put your key in, to warn the spirits of your presence that you come to occupy your room.
Hey if we show kindness and respect towards others, in turn they leave you alone.

 My mom said if you don't offend it, it won't come n disturb you...well, most of the time. The more you scared, the more it will come n disturb you.

You may feel uneasy the moment you enter the room, chances is the room is haunted by a spirit.

A typical 'western' hotel, it is apparently a common practice to place the holy bible on the bedside table or in the drawers.

Look out for an open book that points to a specific page usually signifies the repression of an unwelcome presence and you are better off thinking of changing to another room for a peace of mind. One last thing,  place your pair of shoes or sandals facing the door. The shoes must be away from the bed. One side of the shoe points to the door and the other side point inwards.

Another way is your pet cat would not enter the room and would scream; scratch you rather than go in but this early warning system is not allowed as hotel guests have to abide by a strict house rule.. “No pets allowed”.

The cat's expression says it all!... Ghost scare the living shit out of your cat.
 Your cat starting to act strange sometimes. Her eyes will get large, and she'll start meowing loudly and trying to tell you something. If cats can speak it will says..."N-n-no... not a g-g-ghost"

14. When an extremely large group of souls crosses over together, it is possible for the living to see the Light.
Majority of spirits cross over  move into the bright light of the spirit world
15. A child ghost will often remain earthbound waiting or searching for its parents.
Has anybody seen My Parents?
16. Spirits are commonly purported to be visible in photographs or videos, but are rarely detected by the naked human eye because cameras detect a broader spectrum of energy than the human eye. Some spirits can become trapped in a negative need to be deleted after viewing.

There was one time, I took a photo scenery of a Malaysian resort Indoor Theme Park but when I download photos from my digital camera to my computer... I  got the shock of my life when I found a picture of what I believes to be multiple ghostly face appears on a tree light. The picture had been uploaded to a paranormal website for others to share and comments.
Some of the viewers agreed its some sort of dark negative energies and entities at play, while others dismissed it as a hoax.

These devices can see something the naked eye can't ... “Shutter,” a remake of a 2004 Thai horror film of the same name, a photographer begin to find disturbing, ghostly images popping up in their photos.
17. Animal spirits can be earthbound. Contrary to the false belief that animals do not have feelings and souls just like humans, we are of the opinion that animals do have spirits; and just like human beings, creatures, pets and non-pets, can be found within pictures as ghosts or spirits.

Pet Ghost
Hey, look who is back?

18. Ghosts play practical jokes on the living.

 Ha ha. Very funny.  Don't you have better things to do with your life? I'm sorry, but I forgot you don't have a life.

19. Some earthbound spirits will attach themselves to their belongings, such as a house, business and/or personal items and cannot bare the thought of leaving them behind.
People that love antiques and they decide to decorate their home need to be aware and worry about the spirit or spirits that may be attached to it. Whether you do believe this or not, but everything second hand goods or antique have layers of negative emotions attached to them that need to be cleansed.

Haunted Doll Curses Those Who Take His Picture Without Permission. In 1896, this creepy doll belonged to a child named Robert Eugene Otto in Key Wes. He's a little camera shy perhaps?
20. Some people get the wrong idea, you know and think ghosts only come out at night. They can appear at any time of the day. Generally, ghosts are believed to be active only at night time.. a bit of a night owl, love the love the dark and quiet of the night time.
“The night is young”

Many years ago, one of the favourite 988 radio program that time is GHOST Stories telling broadcasted before midnight. I even recorded a few cassettes,  it is entertaining to go back and listen to them. Some stories are letters written to the host and some listeners rang up recounts based on their own experience.

One of my favourite story I heard is..

There are three best friends and always been  a gambling addiction. How far would some people go to try and strike it rich at the next lottery draw? Extreme method, it appears. Even to the extent of seeking help from the dead by praying to the dead for selecting ‘lucky’ 4-D numbers for the next draw.

So one night they decided to seek a female ghost who dwell in the graveyard. While offerings of food, joss sticks and incense paper for the dead are the standard ways. One of them drive a bamboo stick into the grave, it’s an act of driving the stick into the spirit’s heart to force him or her to give you the numbers.

As soon as the man thrusts his bamboo into the grave, smoke billow out of the bamboo. Then the ghostly woman holding her ghostly baby appeared in front of them.Pets react to something others can't see. A dog might be growling at thin air or its hackles may rise. Pets may refuse to go in a particular room.

If you break your promise, there would be horrible consequences. 

She will give them a set of winning numbers but on one condition..

If the person does not fulfil his/her promise  for winning lottery numbers to return the favour by acceding to the spirits’ requests, he/she will meet with a horrible death. 

The female ghost need to go back to the grave to get the number. ( maybe no wifi..) She asked one of them to hold her baby while she go down. Whoa, what should he sing for a ghost baby? Rock-a-bye baby, in the treetop. When the wind blows, the cradle will..Why this baby so cold? Uumm, let me take a peek.

Peek-A-Boo ... ARRGH! So scary!

The baby may be passed from one person to another till the last one ran and dropped on the ground.

After sometimes the baby's mother return, she looked around but couldn't see any of them, including her baby. A gravekeeper wanders the graveyard at night and saw what happened. He took pity on her and make an effort to look for her baby. Alas, the gravekeeper found the baby abandoned by the 4D punters and return to his mom.

The ghost was very happy and gave the winning number to the gravekeeper, unconditionally.

The ending is the gravekeeper strikes rich and those three gamblers well, they risked their lives to become wealthy. One by one, all of the punters who prayed to the dead for 'lucky' 4-D numbers for the next draw died in savage and mysterious ways, yet no one offered any clues. Well, you don't need to be Sherlock Holmes to explain who might be the culprit.

"Elementary, my dear Watson."

My shaman friend story telling on Things That Go Bump In The Night

1- Her friends came to her house for a visit. Unknown to them, something hitching a ride in their car. When they came into her house, she discovered using her third eye and realised there is another passenger who remain in the car.
One of her friend has been possessed by a ghost lately.  She's been acting differently lately like she developed a taste for spicy food which it was unlike her usual self. Immediately she told her that she need a "spiritual cleansing ritual" that would help her. Next the car do a spiritual cleanse to remove negative energy remains. Now it explains where the odours they smell are and where they come from.

Imagine, you're driving down a lonely country road and you saw a young girl standing at the side drop her off at home and tomorrow when you went to the same site. It turn out to be a graveyard and  a headstone engraved with her name and photo.

2- Another time a friend came to visit her sister. Again an awakened third eye allows the shaman to know he did not come alone, he picked up a piggy back rider on his motorcycle. Since she did not know him well, she did not want to alarm him but ask her sister to inform him the next day.
He often fall ill due to a spirit that possesses him and no matter how many doctor he sees won't make him feel better. He came to my friend for help and she did some cleansing. After he was feeling better, he told her when he was riding his motorcycle he would sit further in front like reserving a seat to another passenger.
Also when steering into the corner, the steering will feel “heavy" as if he's carrying a back-seat passenger.
 So Now You Know.
Believe it or not?

Some people believe that a spate of bad luck when you are ill or in a weakened condition, this may make you vulnerable and susceptible to possession or witnessed the appearance of the ghost.

For many, many years, people have tried to find ways to reliably conjure the materialisation of ghosts, mostly through seances with the help of a psychic medium. These are psychics and mediums who are be able to see them. My friend as a shaman is capable of seeing spirits and from a gift of God.  She see dead people and I talk to dead people just like The Sixth Sense movie.

How can I see a ghost?

If you'd like to see a ghost, here's how to increase your chances. Those who have a doubt about whether ghosts are real or not, may want to experiment with a few methods here to find one that works best. There is no guarantee that you'll encounter a ghost, its not you to decide to see ghost permanently but its up to them whether they want to manifest themselves visually.

1. Ouija board
For those of you unaware of this, well this is a flat board marked with the letters of the alphabet, the numbers 0–9, the words "yes", "no", and "goodbye", along with various symbols and graphics. It uses a planchette (small heart-shaped piece of wood) or movable marker to show the spirit's message by spelling it out on the board during a seance. To prevent calling a bad spirit, put a silver coin on the board.

The Chinese used the Ouija Board as a divination tool as a  means of contacting the dead and the spirit-world  is found in China around 1100 AD. Usually an inverted wineglass placed in the centre.

Minimum two people should sit opposite each other and place the tip of only one finger on the glass. The fingertip should only gently touch the glass and not pushing it. Let the Spirit of the glass do the move during the divination.
Someone starts by asking a simple question, such as “is there a spirit present?. You gotta play the game to be believer. I dare you to play.. a word of reminder. The rule is NEVER abandon the game half way, it is your responsibility to ensure the spirit has left.

If the player does not know how to properly invite the spirits back, the consequences can be quite dangerous. The spirits might show angry range from mild to severe and can even be life-threatening when possessed onto a person's body goes into a trance.

There is a Chinese proverbs, "inviting spirits are easy, but sending away spirits are not easy".

2. Hide and Seek

Why your kids shouldn't play hide and seek in the dark? How often in your childhood did you hear your parents say, "kids should not to play outside at night or the spirits will follow you."

You feel something over your shoulder, watching, and the bushes and trees in your surrounding vision began to move or assume the shape of people, animals, and other things. The ghost will want to join and play with you too.
I don't care how old you are, this still goes through you mind.
Can I Play Too?
The ghost will also help you to hidden from view so that you can't be seen by the finder.

There are many times when you are trying to find something for days. You remembered clearly you have place on the same spot, but did not take notice of it. When you started looking for it, your object was no where to be found.

Just when i accepted the fact that it was lost forever and there it was! It was all the time in front of you all the time but you couldn't see it! The spirit hide it and then play a game of "hide and seek" with them or is it the case of  "gui zhe yan"?

鬼遮眼 /  (ghost cover your eyes)

Children should  listen and to heed their instructions never to play hide and seek in the dark at any time. No one knows how accurate these taboo is but if the ghost won't get you, in the jungle the wild beast will get you.

3. Rub dog tears

Whether folklore or fact, many of us would like to believe that our dogs have an uncanny ability to see a ghost. Animals especially, dogs and cats seem to have a sixth sense that many humans do not possess. By putting cow and dog eye tears on your eyes, you can see spirits and entities.

I, I, I see dead people
I think dogs can see Ghosts or spirits and they react naturally by howling uncontrollably especially during Hungry Ghost Month where it is a traditional 7th month of the Chinese calendar event,ghost were let loose to go on a holiday or vacation held for the hungry, roaming ghosts.

4. Opening Umbrella

Open your umbrella indoors.  My grandparents always disallow me to open umbrella indoors. One explanation comes from the days when umbrellas were used as protection from the sun; opening one inside was an insult to the sun god. Another theory: An umbrella protects you against the storms of life, so opening one in your house insults the guardian spirits of your home, causing them to leave you unprotected.

You will see ghost after that. .

5. Peek-A-Stoop
Try to look behind you in between your legs, of course, you have to bend down. This a ridiculous approach to see spirit. Just because all the little kids in the world somehow get into the act, we try to copy them.

 This child loves Peek-A stoop, so what did you see?
6. Mirror, mirror on the wall

 I've heard that one many times before, not to look in the mirrors at night or by candle light. If you did so you would be certain to see ghosts, demons and portents of death – even your own!
 Mirrors are thought to have the power to capture and trap souls. It seems that they capture passing spirits. Feng shui consultants also say to avoid next to a bed or on the wall above the bed. You shouldn't be able to see yourself reflected in a mirror while laying in bed.

 A mirror should not place at the end of the hallway, which it symbolically says “stay away” and draws negative energy.

 Mirrors are believed by many to be portals to the spirit realm and even to other dimensions and with this spirits are said to use mirrors to freely enter and exit rooms to their gateway between the physical and spiritual world. It to be just like 'Stargate(1994)' movie.   Eh, you don't know what the movie is about? This movie is about an advanced civilization and opens a portal to teletransport to another planet.

One more thing to add...remember not to acquire and brought into the home to avoid the risk of unpleasant energies of the previous owners. If you must, just to be safe; you should send the mirror to be cleanse by  psychic healer, it should be fine afterwards.

I don't care if this if this is real or not, that gives me goosebumps about a little girl brushing her hair in the mirror.
When she turns away from the mirror her reflection continues to stare back at her. 

Heading out at night out but watch out for the you know who? Some of the Chinese custom still observe so the spirits will not bother you.

1) Don't turn around if someone taps you on your shoulder.  If you looked over and no one was there,this type of ghost will try to get your attention and let you know they are there.  It might be a bit difficult to avoid this.

2) Don't wear clothing with your name on it, or the spirits could called out your name. This means no wearing T-shirt with printed or embroidered with your name on the back.
It's okay to wear  jersey from your favourite team with your favourite player name on.

3) Don't shine your torch light directly onto huge shade trees, ghosts like to hang out there.
Ooi, don't ruin the ghost party!

4) Don't pat your friends on the head or on the shoulder. A person has three fires to keep spirits away, two on the shoulder, one on the head. Putting it out means it's easier for spirits to enter them.
Each person body can think like a superhero, as long as the fire still burning, the ghost will not touch you.

5) Don't call out your friend's real names when calling to each others in the forest.  The unseen spirits may just play tricks on you by just imitate your companion’s name and lead him far astray from the path.

6)  Hush! don't talk about ghosts at night. They might show up. Our old folks always remind us,  "Don't gossip other people in daytime, nor ghost at night  or they will show up.".. 日头唔好讲人,夜晚唔好讲鬼

It's a true fact as quite often someone appears after you mention them. The short form of the idiom,  "Speak of the Devil" is short for "Speak of the Devil and he shall come". Also reflected by the Chinese saying, "speak of Cao Cao and he will appear.. 說曹操,曹操到

7) If you need to answer the call of nature, you go to the toilet but if you couldn't you have to stop somewhere. Never pee onto trees or ground, before you ask for permission like as if asking permission from a living person before proceeding to next action.
Normally when you go under a shady tree you have to say "please excuse me I need to pee." It'd is terrible bad luck to luck if you just happen to pee on a ghost who was standing there or lives in that tree. Even if you didn't do it on purpose.
Mom always taught us to place both hand together like a praying gesture and say the magic words.

8)  Don't whistle at night because you will invite ghosts into your house.

9) The old folks used to remind us young generation after attending wakes and funerals, pluck some pomelo leaves and stalk, put into a pail of water for bath, supposedly to get rid of bad luck and spirits which may have lingered.

Old school style, folks like to bath their kids with 7  types of flowers whenever they  have unusual responses like cried a lot, sickly, or scared). The old folks claim it will help calm the child and 'cleanse' away affliction

1.      Sundal Malam (Polianthes tuberose)

2.      Mawar (Rose)

3.      Cempaka (Magnolia champaca)

4.      Bunga Kenanga (Ylang flowers)

5.      Bunga Tanjung (Mimusops elengi)

6.      Bunga Melur (Jasmine)

7.      Bunga kesidang (canangrium scortechinii )

How true? Not sure.

10) Do not rests under a tree because it looks a great shade or especially stands out among the rest. Ancient giant trees shelter the homeless spirits, ask permission to excuse you to the tree if you have to.  According to traditional Chinese thinking that ghosts and spirits like to reside in trees. Often when you go near to a tree which give you a negative aura, you may feel  sick and you may even have to throw up. This is the sign of the ghostly entities has taken up residence.

Tree Hugger not me, I prefer to hug a pretty lass
 Taoist belief in meditation with tree, absorbing positive living energy from the Earth's and  release negative energy from your own body to help it heal but bear in mind...the elderly people says the following are some basic types of trees desired or preferred by the ghost.

1. Banyan tree
 Spooky Banyan trees are said to hold lost spirits
2. Kapok, Ceiba or Silk Cotton Tree

Kapok is the most used common name for the tree and may also refer to the cotton obtained from its seed pods.
Silk Cotton Trees, folklore labels the tree associated with souls of the dead, living possibly in its roots and branches
3. Sapodilla tree popularly known in India as chiku.

4. Banana tree.

 It is unlucky to plant a banana tree beside a house. In Indonesia and Malaysia. Ba Jiao Gui 芭蕉鬼 - "Banana-tree ghost", a female ghost which dwells in a banana tree, often haunting under the tree by appearing at night and wailing sadly.

Pontianak is a vampire ghost in Malay and Indonesian mythology. It is also known as a matianak or kuntilanak

 According to a folk tale, the pontianak are said to be the spirits of women who died while pregnant. The word pontianak is reportedly a mixture of the Malay perempuan mati beranak, or “woman who died in childbirth”.

In folklore, a pontianak usually announces its existence through baby cries like trumpets announce the arrival of the royal guests. When you'll hear a soft cry, it denotes that the pontianak is near, and if  cry loudly it must be further away. Another myth is if you hear a dog howling, that means that the pontianak is far away. On the contrary, if a dog is whining, that means the pontianak is nearby. You can also detect its presence by  a pleasant floral fragrance identifiable as that of the plumeria, what follows is an awful stench.

The pontianak is associated with banana trees (pokok pisang), and its spirit is said to reside in them during the day.

To ward off a pontianak, a nail must be plunged into the hole on the nape of her neck. One legend says to make her a beautiful woman and a good wife until the nail is removed.

5. The Saga Seed Tree.

 Trees that are spooky, wrapped and crooked, ghost seems likely to move into their residential home.

6. Tamarind tree

Tamarind tree is usually a residence pocong or puntianak especially the old spooky creepy old tree.

My mother shares her story of her childhood friend special ability. Whenever there is a headcount she will somehow manage to calculate an extra person. This is the reason why she  is spurned by her classmates at school who looked at her like she was some kind of freak or something. The teacher will not let her do any more headcount.

The actual fact is she is able to see Ghosts visually, known by the Chinese as "Yin Yang Eyes" (阴阳眼). In the West, they better known as Clairvoyant Eyes  , Spiritual Eyes or "Third Eye".You either born with it or You born without.

Many people are afraid of the prospect of seeing a ghost, but there are others who wish they could. Though here is a word of warning. Forcing Third Eye open in that state is not a good thing.

Many people , even the Chinese, think Clairvoyant Eyes are either  The truth is, there are Taoist Talismans to activate the Spiritual Eyes to Ghosts.

Common folks who request to activate Yin-Yang Eyes are encourage to keep a Protection Talisman because once they know you are able to see them , they will begin to have interest in you for whatever reason.

Just like Melinda had the ability to speak to ghost, you will be attracting a boatload of spirits seeking for your help.

So be careful what you wish for 'Cause you just might get it!