Your child's development toward independence

As children grow up, they progress to a point in their lives where they go from a total dependence newborn baby to a semi independent teenager. Most parents are overprotective of their children and it is  the same practises all over the world cause every baby/child is the most beautiful precious in their parents' eyes.

No matter how old a children is , their parents will still watches her grown up children for signs of improvement but their action of being overprotective may hinder their child's development on the road to independence.

We understand parental reluctance to give up the role of keeping their children safe from harm but this is going to effect the self confidence of children as they can't handle life's challenges on their own. Parental must let go the children freedom as to let them have the courage to face life ahead.

There's an old Chinese proverb saying, "You have to go through the falling down in order to learn to walk."
In short - definition, you are willing to accepting responsibility and learning from defeat. By being determined to never give up and never quit even when things get really tough just like a stubborn ants.

"When the going gets tough, the tough get going", MU crawled the way back
 from the brink of defeat against BM before dying moments winner

When the children was young, everything have to take care by the parents who are in decision making for kids on what their kids see and eat, what they wear and who they see, etc..but when too much of parental control the kids will start to rebel.

Keep them as safe without getting too restrictive by letting them explore the world. You may act like a football coach to watch them perform from a distance and act appropriately by giving them feedback advice on their mistake.

Mother bird kicking her chick out of the nest? Expecting her
to be independent grown up

Sometimes the parents need to know its time you need to let go of the parental control. Stop becoming control freaks, you can't forever be there for your children.

The children has to learn to be responsible for their actions and let them make their own decision to boost their self esteem or self confidence. It is inappropriate to ask the consent of the parent all the time but due to the world is becoming more dangerous in big cities, it isn't safe to stay late at night anymore, hence they must be back before midnight curfew just like Cinderella's carriage will turn back into a pumpkin at midnight!

We need to give children more freedom but still watch them from afar and not previously like a hawk watching over them.
Its a contradicting situation and impossible to comprehend when your children start to say, I'm not a kid anymore, and I make my own decisions! Okay then but when you stop showing concern on them anymore, later on they response  with you don't love them anymore. How strange it is?


When those children become young adult or when their child turns 18, parents need to try a different approach. This is the transition period where the knowledge and skills will better prepare them for their future adulthood involvement.

Parents are unwilling to let go the duty of taking care of children as they felt anything happen to them it's their responsibility.

It's the circle of life on taking care on your children before you setting them free. Your children will hate the nagging of their parents advice or comment but when those kids become parents someday they will only realise what a heavy burden on their parents shoulder.

Yeah, being parenthood is the most difficult job in the world. My friend, Pua have a difficult time to take care of his two young children, should any of them sick. It affected his sleeping time, just barely able to recuperate some of his lost sleep by taking a short nap during lunch time.

Ice Age 4  positive portrayal of the traditional parental over control

Manny nagging Peaches

In the animation movie of Ice Age 4, mammoth parents find hard to let go freedom of his daughter, the headstrong Peaches have been in constant squabbles over his typical overprotective dad, Manny.
Many times Manny watched her rebellious teenage daughter like a hawk to make sure she stay out of trouble, helping her child pick good friends and how to say no to negative influences.

So, naturally, like any teen girl seeking adventure and thrill, they get irritated and annoyed because her dad is always trying to tell them what to do...till one day potentially end-of-the-world for the Ice Age as the earth begins to split apart. Manny, Diego, and Sid are separated from the rest of the herd.

After battling big waves, bad pirates and treacherous sirens -group of sea nymphs who by their sweet singing lured mariners to destruction, in the end an emotional reunion when reuniting with Manny's family. Ultimately, Manny allowed Peaches the freedom to explore the island but on one condition, she will have to be back at home before the clock strikes midnight.

This is happening all over the world, where the local population to become lazy and complacent. While with immigrants are acustom to hard work and dedication. They are like the independent child able to stand on their own two feet.

 Its like a case of parents or government pampers its people, expect to be spoon fed to them. I have seen many immigrants work hard for low pay and do whatever work local people unwilling to accept any work perceived as “low-class”. My views of immigrant workers are that they work harder, longer and complain less.

The Chinese immigrants were well and widely received by all over the world, they earn respect worldwide because Chinese were one of the best race well known for self sufficient, hard working, frugal, and mutually supportive supportive towards each other.

The Chinese may have once been immigrants but because the above factors, they have created wealth for themselves.

The most important factors contributing to the success of your race are::

Must be able to stand on their own two feet, without handouts or spoon-feeding and ready to compete with other parts of the world.

 Like the young birds leaving the nest, one by one will take their turns

It's amazing how fast time flies, two of my nieces already working somewhere in JB far from their parents home. While the third, the youngest will be enrolled in a local University in a few weeks time.

My sister always nag her youngest daughter telling her she must know how to look after her self-care needs as she got the habit on relying her mum to provide her with other necessities, example tissue paper. My niece like to ask my sister for tissue paper, she replied "What, you think mum is tissue paper? How many times have I told you…When you do go outdoors, be prepared and make sure your basic needs are taken care of before doing so."


Very soon my sister will keep thinking how quiet her home once the last of her daughters enrol into University. Well that's life, you can't keep them at home forever. When the time is ripe you need to let go of the children just like the Mother bird kick out of the chicks once it can take care of itself.


Like they always say, 'Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind' so they can stand on their own feet and survives without being spoon fed.

PUBLIC TOILETS: Squatting toilets more hygienic

Let talk dirty, No, no not the one you have in mind. What I meant was everyone need to answer the call of nature when one suddenly gets an "urge" and don't shy away from talking about loo.

Public toilet, Oops. ...... Was I wrong to use the word? It's not a polite word to use or  you preferably use another decent name like the gentleman's (or ladies') room, the men's (or women's) room, the restroom, the washroom, the bathroom or the facility.

Called it whatever you like to call it, a toilet is still a toilet. The main purpose is for you to do your business there, nothing more nothing less.

Just remember to wash your hands thoroughly after you have done your business – whatever it is.

It happened once before, a roti canai maker suddenly had an urge to use the bathroom.

As the story goes.. After passing stool, he does not wash his hands properly after using it.

So some of his "waste" got stuck on his rings and nails, without knowing he continues his work with the roti canai till someone realise the extra ingredients in their roti canai. Urgh!!! Ewww!!!Disgusting!

I think there should be a regulation somewhere which says those serving food or drink to the public may not wear jewelry on their arms and hands while preparing food. 

Roti Canai: Malaysia version of pizza, Canai is a Malay word meaning among other "to flatten or thin dough using hand or other utensil". Thus roti canai in Malay literally means flat bread. 

A sample on how a roti canai maker shows off his stuff while he works his magic on the dough for a perfectly soft and fluffy bread.

I want to ask a bigger question: Question is which type of toilet is more hygienic, sitting or squatting toilet?
     
Sitting toilet is a rising trend originated  from Great Britain which was then one of the most powerful country in the world, the fad spread to the rest of Europe, and to North America, Australia and rest of the world.

The toilet sitting users feel comfortably when seated on them, thus creating more pressure for housing developer to switch from squat toilets to seat type. This norm is accepted as current trend in new homes, rapidly overtaking squat style toilet as the most preferred toilets in private homes and public utilities.

I don’t understand why the public toilets in the country and probably most part of the world still insist on having a seated toilet?

Don’t they know how unhygienic to use one? Even women shun seated toilet if they have a choice.What toilet designers, planners and providers should do is to allocate a few seated  toilet for elderly or physical  impaired persons while the rest stay with squat toilet.

It takes less time and water to clean a squat toilet, seating toilet required more water as it includes the seat cover as well.

I'm of the many people who supports what's practical rather than what's fashionable when comes to public utilities or they should have dual-use squat toilets as it is generally more practical.

You tried to become an environmental friendly person but when you’re using a sitting toilet, a lot of papers are wasted cleaning down the top of the toilet before using it.
Even after all precautions have been taken, usually some risk remains, it will not save you from bacterial infection unless you’re using an antibacterial wipes.

This method is not as environmentally friendly, but you don't have a choice?
 Alternatively  you can try leaning forward and hovering over the toilet like crouching tiger

It's good to know that new  shopping mall has allocated both western-style and squat toilets but preferably if more of these squatting toilet options were available .

The dangers of using a seating toilet:

Cleanliness factor: That will be alright if it’s used in your own home because you make sure the toilet seating bowl is clean but when used as public amenities it’s a different kind of story to talk about. Many Asians consider squat-style Asian toilets to be more hygienic than Western and it's easy to explain why, drops of urine left in the bowl.

The safety factor:  It's been one of those “well-known facts” that most people will not seat on the porcelain toilet seat bowl. Usually you can see footprints on the seat of a sitting toilet regardless toilets for male or female.

This kind of method by squatting on a toilet seat bowl can be dangerous as your leg might slip into the toilet hole or an even dangerous consequence is the porcelain toilet seat bowl might break causing a deep cut on your leg, bottom or back. The toilet bowl is design generally for sitting, therefore will not support much weight. By squatting on a toilet bowl, it is possible stress build-up takes its toll resulted the bowl to crack.

When you shit in public toilets you sit, not squat on the toilet bowl .  You don't want to end up like this.

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The health factor: It has been observed in Medical Science that Asian who has more squatting toilets has lower occurrences of colorectal disease due to ensure a more thorough emptying of bowel excrete by squatting.

Furthermore by squatting you’re exercising your joints and stomach muscles.

Is the squat toilet at least partly to blame for problems like hemorrhoids and constipation and more serious diseases like IBS, colon cancer and more.
Complete your daily bowel movement to eliminate the stagnation from fecal which pollutes the colon.

Statistical data has strongly supported by scientific evidence on the theory, using squat toilets are the basis for a healthier life. It has always used the squatting position for elimination since the beginning of mankind, so why change it?

Squatting relaxes the final pathway between the rectum and anus

New inventions are not always as good as old. Like they always said, "If it ain't broke, don't fix it!"

If studies shows they can prevent colon cancer or IBS then maybe they are worth to adopt this toilet.

Which would you rather have? Good health or fashionable toilet?

Little did we know, how a natural way to go to the toilet can help to heal our bowel digestive by simple change of habit to the squat posture Human defecation postures.

Believe it or not!


Support and adopt Squat and  not Sit Toilet!